I have a serious problem with the Washington Examiner’s article, "Fallout from Campus Sexual Assault Hysteria: College Men Now Suspicious of Women."
The argument here is that people speaking out against rape culture (you know, where people are raped and assaulted and then blamed for their rape/assault) are hurting men because men are too scared that they’ll be accused of rape if they’re physical with women who might be too drunk to provide consent. (Uhhhh…)
The article starts off with “…young college men are starting to rethink how they talk to women” and goes on to say, ”This is about men actually avoiding contact with women because they’re afraid a simple kiss or date could lead to a sexual assault accusation.”
So let me get this straight. Women have been worried about getting raped, assaulted and then blamed for their rape/assault for…how long now?…and men who are starting to become aware of this are victims of their own awareness?
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH RETHINKING HOW WE SPEAK TO EACH OTHER?
At worst, a guy that wants to kiss a girl but doesn’t because there’s always the chance she doesn’t actually want to be kissed goes home wishing he could have kissed her. If she didn’t want him kissing her, I’d say they both just dodged a really awkward bullet (at best). But let’s say the young woman in question WANTED him to kiss her. Is it really so bad that they both have to wait until each of them is sober to get their fully consensual physicality on?
This article also makes it seem as though the only time any guy has a chance at romance or sex or even interaction with women is when they’re drunk at parties, not to mention it reiterates the misconception that women “cry rape” all the time.
It paints awareness, consent, and consideration as tools that are actually victimizing college men everywhere. Newsflash: I’d rather be suspicious that someone might not appreciate my advances than be suspicious that someone might rape me.
"Joshua Handler of New York University’s comments brought up another interesting consequence of so much media attention: Having to talk to women in a very specific manner. Handler told the Bloomberg reporters that he is now very clear about what he wants when he talks to women. Because now, apparently, women can’t interpret conversations and need to be spoken to like children (my words, not his)."
Gosh darn this awareness of rape culture, making it so that young people actually TALK about their potential sexual relationships with one another. Having clear expectations and respecting each other’s wants must really suck, not to mention being upfront and straightforward is sooo childish.
You wanna talk about childish? You call the awareness and outrage at people being raped “hysteria” and then proceed to throw a tantrum over the fact men have to wait until women are sober enough to talk about what it is they actually want.